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Everyone I talk to about debt tells me “I know, I need to get on a budget.” In my head, I’m like “duh!?!” But the truth is, I remember what it’s like to be single on a 36K income staring 60K of debt in the face.
It’s horrifying, overwhelming, and seemingly impossible. So I just ignored it. I let the interest pile up and said I just can’t do this. Flash forward two years and the budget is a vital part of my life.
I am by no means a master budgeter and I’m always the one that ends up going over budget (sorry babe) but it by no means negates the massive change in our lives the budget has made.
There are things I’ve learned about the budget, especially in the last year, that have debunked what I used to think and I’ll share them with you in hopes that it won’t take you as long to figure them out as it did for us.
Myth 1: The Budget is Just Going to make me Feel Guilty
My primary reason for not budgeting was the guilt I felt about every purchase I made. Even if it was necessary and in the budget I was constantly thinking about what the budget would think of me or do to me, so spending money was torture. I couldn’t see living the rest of my life that way so I’d give up.
The fact is that the budget is not the master, you are!
When someone told me the budget is meant to give freedom, not shame, my perspective changed. The game became to spend the entire allotment (with some pacing) because we didn’t need it for anything else.
I still occasionally feel guilty but now it’s because I have someone to keep me accountable if I make frivolous purchases. Instead of buying something and feeling guilty about it the whole time now I think about my purchases and make sure they’re really needed or wanted.
I’ve learned that the things I spend my money on are what I value and now I spend with intention rather than guilt.
Myth 2: I’ve Gone Over Budget So I Should Scrap it and Start Again Next Month
If you can’t do it perfectly you shouldn’t do it at all right? It sounds silly when you say it in your head and it is equally as silly in real life, especially with something as nuanced as spending.
There is no such thing as a perfect budget.
Our budget changes every month and throughout the month to account for surprises, what we need to save for short term, and Murphy’s Law. When emergencies come up that have to be dealt with immediately, for big things we’ll take it out of our emergency fund (what a concept) then replenish that.
For smaller things, we shave off the current month’s budget to accommodate. The budget is finite but fluid. You are the master of your money, not the other way around.
Myth 3: If I Make a Budget Then I’ll Really Know How Bad my Finances are, and then I’ll be Sad 🙁
I hate being sad. Some people will do anything to avoid being sad, like ignore all their flaws and problems to exist in a constant state of ignorant bliss. And by some people I mean me.
Budgeting makes you look at how YOU are spending your money. In my early days of budgeting that looked like a ton of Starbucks transactions and bar/ restaurant trips that I barely remembered.
It also meant studying the compound interest my loans were accruing. It’s hard, even after paying our debt down to almost half I still get sad when I look at how far we have to go, I get sad about saying no to eating out or getting coffee out just because I feel like it.
It’s so worth it, though. In the long run, when we’re debt free and our budget reveals all the money we had but could never use, it’ll be like getting a huge raise! But it means you have to start with sad, move on to mad, and graduate to determined. Because ignorant bliss never lasts forever.
Myth 4: I Track My Spending Online, so That’s My Budget
A budget is essentially telling your money where to go, not finding out where it went. Automatic tracking tools like Mint are extremely useful tools for seeing the big picture of your finances but they are not budgets! The best way we’ve found to stay accountable is to manually enter our expenses.
I initially thought I would find it annoying to input every expense but it’s the annoyance that causes inspection and reflection on my purchases. We are aware of every purchase (which unfortunately means no hiding coffee purchases from your spouse, sad always) and know when we’re close to the top of the budget.
We personally use the free version of EveryDollar. My favorite feature is copying lasts month’s budget to the next month. We’re always tweaking throughout the month so as we change, the budget changes with us.
What do you hate about budgeting? If there’s any topic you’d like to see on the blog let me know!
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